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had dinner with mom and dad, who came by into the city to visit me. while eating, they started asking if i had a girlfriend.
"no."
"you sure?"
"what do you mean, am i sure? of course i'm sure. i would know if i did."
"you aren't gonna suddenly surprise us like jimmy did?" (haha. sorry, J & J)
my dad then goes on how mom has been feeling pretty low, and how having grandkids would shoot her up with endorphins. (i think he was trying to say that he would like to have grandkids) anyway, i told them how i've been pretty busy, etc. etc. they then go through a list of all the girls that they know of (all three: R.C., E.H., & H.K.. i never went out any of these girls. they are simply the only female friends my parents know of). they (especially my mom!) impress me with their memory on little factoids about each of these girls; they definitely remember more than me.
dad then goes into confucious mode and tells me, "you know, marrying an not-so-pretty girl with a good heart is better than marrying a pretty girl with not such a good heart."
"yes, dad, i know, but i would like to marry a girl who is a Christian, with a good heart, and maybe pretty to boot."
"yes, yes, but there aren't too many of those around. don't wait too long for one of those. don't you have friends that are getting along in their age, still waiting for that combo?" (ah, so thus begins the pressure from parents that some of my friends, more specifically the girls, have talked about...)
"dad, i'm not going to marry just anybody. i'm going to spend the rest of my life with this person. i'm not expecting a perfect person, an angel. i'm just waiting for the person that God wants for me." (doesn't this sound like a late night college conversation? i couldn't believe that i was talking this way, about stuff like this, to my parents.) they get pretty quiet, because there is no real argument against that statement, but i know that they are not satisfied.
i guess they are feeling the squeeze of time, and want to see me, jimmy and dave, married and with kids. that's fine, i can appreciate that. but i'm not about to hitch with just anyone to make them happy. making them happy is important, but i am going to spend the rest of my life with my wife. i will wait.
yakob at 8:17 PM
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"no."
"you sure?"
"what do you mean, am i sure? of course i'm sure. i would know if i did."
"you aren't gonna suddenly surprise us like jimmy did?" (haha. sorry, J & J)
my dad then goes on how mom has been feeling pretty low, and how having grandkids would shoot her up with endorphins. (i think he was trying to say that he would like to have grandkids) anyway, i told them how i've been pretty busy, etc. etc. they then go through a list of all the girls that they know of (all three: R.C., E.H., & H.K.. i never went out any of these girls. they are simply the only female friends my parents know of). they (especially my mom!) impress me with their memory on little factoids about each of these girls; they definitely remember more than me.
dad then goes into confucious mode and tells me, "you know, marrying an not-so-pretty girl with a good heart is better than marrying a pretty girl with not such a good heart."
"yes, dad, i know, but i would like to marry a girl who is a Christian, with a good heart, and maybe pretty to boot."
"yes, yes, but there aren't too many of those around. don't wait too long for one of those. don't you have friends that are getting along in their age, still waiting for that combo?" (ah, so thus begins the pressure from parents that some of my friends, more specifically the girls, have talked about...)
"dad, i'm not going to marry just anybody. i'm going to spend the rest of my life with this person. i'm not expecting a perfect person, an angel. i'm just waiting for the person that God wants for me." (doesn't this sound like a late night college conversation? i couldn't believe that i was talking this way, about stuff like this, to my parents.) they get pretty quiet, because there is no real argument against that statement, but i know that they are not satisfied.
i guess they are feeling the squeeze of time, and want to see me, jimmy and dave, married and with kids. that's fine, i can appreciate that. but i'm not about to hitch with just anyone to make them happy. making them happy is important, but i am going to spend the rest of my life with my wife. i will wait.
yakob at 8:17 PM